The Shea Tracey Podcast
By Shea Tracey
Episode 21: Great Parent Sets Expectations, Sets the Bar and Sets Your Child Up to Meet Them
The mother’s efficacy of her belief that you have the belief to produce a desire or intended result. Our children have expectations and their internal belief comes from how we set out intentions and expectations for them. So those expectations are taught by us and done by them when they finally feel confident enough to do by themselves.
Do you want your child to “behave” and follow the rules ?
Do you want peaceful evenings at home and joyful mornings with your child?
In today's episode, I share how parental efficacy or your belief in an intended result will get you that, even if you're short on time and patience !
If you're ready for a change in your family and home life with your children, make sure you listen to this episode!
Access my free Masterclass all about how to eliminate problem behaviors and manage your calm: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Bullet points of key topics + chapter markers
Topic #1 Expectations are made of your children when you set the standard. Your belief is built into the support your give your child
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Helpful Resources:
Link #1: Calm Communication Scripts Ebook
Link #2: Problem Proof Behavior Parenting Program
Want to know the systems I use to eliminate problem behaviors and maintain your calm
Find out more here: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/thesheatracey
Find out more here: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/thesheatracey/
Episode 20: Change Your Child’s Problem Behavior By Establishing Expectations This Way
4/25/2023
Shea Tracey Podcast
Episode 20: Change Your Child’s Problem Behavior By Establishing Expectations This Way
Brief summary of episode:
We want our children to engage in positive behaviors that don't complicate our lives and our home routines. We want them to have their needs met and get the things they want without feeling the need to engage in behaviors that we know are inappropriate.
While you may have laid out expectations before there may have been a step or two missed because instead of meeting those expectations, your child is misbehaving in a real way. To get their behavior together and meet the expectations that you know you set, how about you try it this way.
Do you want your child to stop their problem behaviors like hitting, verbal aggression, running off and/or throwing tantrums without having to have things always go their way?
Do you want to have a peaceful home life with a child that behaves and listens the first time without throwing away all the rules?
In today's episode, I share how to establish some firm expectations that create structure and routines that will help eliminate blowups, even if they take place!
If you're ready to improve your child’s behavior and create some peace in your home life, make sure you listen to this episode!
Access my free Masterclass all about how to eliminate problem behaviors and manage your calm: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Bullet points of key topics + chapter markers
Topic #1 Set the Expectations and Make it Clear What It Looks Like
Topic #2 Talk About it When You are BOTH Calm
Topic #3 Front Load Your Child Before You Expect Them to Engage
Topic #4 Offer Specific Praise for What They Did
Topic #5 Consistency is Key
Topic #6 Tie the Reward to the Expectations in a Way That is Clear
Topic #7 Fade Prompting and Reminders Until They Can Do it On Their Own
Topic #8 Time that it May Take…. Depends
Helpful Resources:
Link #1: Calm Communication Scripts Ebook
Link #2: Problem Proof Behavior Parenting Program
Related Episodes:
Season 1 Episode 13: 34 Lessons I Have Learned on Managing A Child’s Behavior as a Parent, Educator, & Parent Coach
Spotify: Spotify Episode 13 Link
Itunes: Apple Episode 13 Link
Want to know the systems I use to eliminate problem behaviors and maintain your calm
Find out more here: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/thesheatracey
Find out more here: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/thesheatracey/
Episode 19: The 7 Skills Your Child Needs to Eliminate their Problem Behavior
4/18/2023
Shea Tracey Podcast
Episode 19: The 7 Skills Your Child Needs to Eliminate their Problem Behavior
Brief summary of episode:
Behavior isn’t a question of if they want to but rather are they able. Do they actually have the skills necessary to not engage in the problem behavior? Yes children control their behavior but they also require skills to help them maneuver in ways that are socially acceptable. If they do not have the skill set to maintain positive behavior then we have to work on it like a muscle and not like a piece of information they forgot. The skills discussed today include behavior skills that we can see but are created in the mind including: self regulation, communication, attention, and adaptability. Then the skills that are held in the mind which may impact behavior including cognitive flexibility, social thinking, and work habits.
Come take a listen to this episode to get to the real about changing behaviors and making improvements that you can see and feel.
Do you want your child to show more positive behaviors and maintain positive relationships with those around them?
Do you want to eliminate problem behaviors by building up the skills they lack?
In today's episode, I share the 7 cognitive and behaviors skills your child must master to eliminate problem behaviors, even if they are elementary age!
If you're ready for a skill focused approach to improve your child’s behavior, make sure you listen to this episode!
Access my free Masterclass all about how to eliminate problem behaviors and manage your calm: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Key Topics & Chapter Markers
Topic #1 Parenting Without Punishment
Topic #2 If They Could They Would:
Topic #3 7 Skills Your Child Must Have
Topic #4 Self Regulation: What it is, How It works?
Topic #5 Communication: All 3 Components
Topic #6 Attention: To What and Whom for Positive Behavior
Topic #7 Adaptability: What it is and How it looks?
Topic #8 Cognitive Flexibility: What is it, How it works? Mental Gymnastics but Good
Topic #9 Social Thinking: Their Ability to Read the Room is Impacting Behavior
Helpful Resources:
Link #1: Calm Communication Scripts Ebook
Link #2: Problem Proof Behavior Parenting Program
Related Episodes:
Season 1 Episode 13: 34 Lessons I Have Learned on Managing A Child’s Behavior as a Parent, Educator, & Parent Coach
Spotify: Spotify Episode 13 Link
Itunes: Apple Episode 13 Link
Want to know the systems I use to eliminate problem behaviors and maintain your calm
Find out more here: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/thesheatracey
Find out more here: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/thesheatracey/
Episode 18: The Easiest Way to Reconnecting and Restoring Your Relationship With Your Child After the Tantrum, Blowout, or BlowUp
1/17/2023
Shea Tracey Podcast
Episode 18: The Easiest Way to Reconnecting and Restoring Your Relationship With Your Child After the Tantrum, Blowout, or BlowUp
Brief summary of episode:
Restorative practices are seen everywhere. At schools, in prisons, the first place they need to be is home. This episode counts on the fact that our children will need connection and we will have to reconnect to get our relationship back to where it was after harm from either party has been caused.
Going over the principles of restorative practices, this episode highlights how the parent is able to revive and revitalize their relationship with their child simply by making space for your child’s perspective and opinion. In doing this we paint a picture of understanding and empathy. Some scripts and highlights are added in to help you on your journey in the reactive strategies after problem behavior. Listen to this episode in order to add to your parenting toolbox.
Do you want more ease in reconnecting with your child after their bad behavior episodes?
Do you want to dissolve the tension in your home instead of ignoring it by addressing it head on without hostility?
In today's episode, I share the Easiest Way to Reconnect with your child after a blow out, tantrum, or blow up, even if you’re low on energy or short on patience!
If you're ready for a faster way to reconnect with your child post blowout, make sure you listen to this episode!
Access my free Masterclass all about how to eliminate problem behaviors and manage your calm: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Key Topics:
Topic #1 Restorative Practices at Home (Motivation, Action, Victim Voice, Empathy, Alternative Behaviors)
Topic #2 Ask for Their Experience or Opinion of What Happened
Topic #3 Return of Limit Setting to Enact Discipline While Maintaining Encouragement and Nurturing
Topic #4 Other Scripts to Use & Questions to Ask
Mentioned in this episode:
Link #1: Calm Communication Scripts Ebook
Link #2: Problem Proof Behavior Parenting Program
Find out more here: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/thesheatracey/
Episode 17: Focus on What You Care To See When It Comes To Your Child’s Behavior
Shea Tracey Podcast
Episode 17: Focus on What You Care To See When It Comes To Your Child’s Behavior
Brief summary of episode:
We say a lot when our child is engaging in the behaviors that we wish would stop but don’t have much to say when our children are engaging in the behaviors that we care to see. In this episode, I am challenging parents to change their language to promote positive behaviors.
We pay attention, comment, and reward our children when they are doing the right thing…and we use a thing called planned ignoring when they don’t.
This is albeit all behaviors when they aren’t hurting other people or themselves but to get the best idea of how to do this check out this podcast episode.
Do you want your child to engage in positive behaviors without you having to constantly repeat yourself?
Do you want to get to the other side of the tantrums and blowouts where your child can recognize where things went wrong for themselves?
In today's episode, I share how to do this and more even if you’re short on time and patience! If you're ready to see your child’s behavior transform, make sure you listen to this episode!
Access my free Masterclass all about how to eliminate problem behaviors and manage your calm: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Bullet points of key topics + chapter markers
Topic #1 Let go of these two expressions Don’t and NO
Topic #2 Focus on stating expectations in the positive
Topic #3 Release who has the measuring stick of good behavior
Topic #4 Help Your Child Create their own stamp of success
Topic #5 Hold on to your standards
Topic #6 It’s not enough to say repeat it You Have to Re-Say it.
Mentioned in this episode:
Link #1: Calm Communication Scripts Ebook
Link #2: Problem Proof Behavior Parenting Program
Related Episodes:
Season 1 Episode 13: 34 Lessons I Have Learned on Managing A Child’s Behavior as a Parent, Educator, & Parent Coach
Spotify: Spotify Episode 13 Link
I-tunes: Apple Episode 13 Link
Episode 16: Parenting Without Punishment: Why you should… and Where to Start in 2023
Date: 1/3/2023
Name of podcast: Shea Tracey Podcast
Episode title and number: Season 1 Episode 16: Parenting Without Punishment: Why you should… and Where to Start
Brief summary of episode:
This episode highlights how to move from punishing your child for their poor behavior and doing something that will increase their positive behavior more naturally. Without having to enforce your mind, body, or will, you can get your child to stop problem behavior by allowing and making room for natural consequences.
Get to the other side of your child’s problem behavior by letting natural consequences take precedence over punishment and making room for logical consequences when it permits.
This episode is for all the moms who are in the business of breaking the generational curse of whoppings and becoming more conscious parents so that their children can thrive.
Do you want to correct your child’s behavior but don’t see a way without punishment?
Want to start using logical and natural consequences but sometimes the moment doesn’t seem to allow?
Do you want to cultivate some character and values in your child that you feel are important but you seem to be missing the mark?
In today's episode, I share how we’re opting out of punishing our children and moving into natural/logical consequences instead.!
If you're ready for results in your child’s behavior without having to punish them then you need to check out today’s episode.
Access my free Masterclass all about how to eliminate problem behaviors and manage your calm: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Bullet points of key topics + chapter markers
Topic #1 Punishment and What it actually does to your child
Topic #2 Natural or Logical Consequences
Topic #3 The Lesson is in The Lesson
Topic #4 Instilling the Values that You Really Care About
Mentioned in this episode:
Link #1: Calm Communication Scripts Ebook
Link #2: Problem Proof Behavior Parenting Program
Want to know the systems I use to eliminate problem behaviors and maintain your calm
Find out more here: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/thesheatracey
Episode 15: How Parents Can Give Themselves Grace At the End of 2022 and Beyond
Date: 12/13/2022
Shea Tracey Podcast
Episode 15: How Parents Can Give Themselves Grace At the End of 2022 and Beyond
Brief summary of episode:
The end of the year is here and as we move into Christmas breaks and times of reflection we want to ensure we avoid burnout and overwhelm by giving ourselves and our families some grace. In this episode, I touch on some tried and tested lessons learned from this year on how moms can manage their expectations and their energy by getting clear on the outcome and being flexible with the process. Take a listen to today’s episode and learn more about implementing this over the holiday season.
This episode also has video that can be accessed at the following link:
http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Main Topics & Bullet Points:
Topic #1: Taking Inventory Or Your Year: Do More or Less?
Topic #2: How to Get Flexible to Be More Comfortable With Change
Topic #3: Doing Your Best; When 50% is 100%
Topic #4: Setting Boundaries Work/Life/Self Balance
Topic #5: Moving without Expectation: Allowing You and Your Child To Just Be
Topic #6: The Holidays are Here What You Should Expect
Topic #7: Grace for 2023
Other Helpful Links to Manage Problem Behaviors
Link #1: Calm Communication Scripts Ebook
Link #2: Problem Proof Behavior Parenting Program
Want to know the systems I use to eliminate problem behaviors and maintain your calm
Find out more here: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/thesheatracey
Episode 14: 5 Steps To Eliminating (& Changing) Your Child’s Problem Behavior
Date: 11/29/2022
Shea Tracey Podcast
Episode 14: 5 Steps To Eliminating (& Changing) Your Child’s Problem Behavior
Brief summary of episode:
This is an amazing step by step guide on how to manage and eliminate your child’s problem behaviors by going through the cycle of behavior and getting some behavior basics established. Parents will learn how to identify trigger, gain some new scripts, and take a deeper look at rewards and reinforcements that will help stop problem behaviors and gain some insight on how to eliminate them.
This episode also has video that can be accessed at the following link:
http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Main Topics & Bullet Points:
Topic #1: The ABCs of Problem Behavior
Topic #2: Triggers; Identifying Them & Consequences Based on Why
Topic #3: Coping with difficult behaviors for you and your child
Topic #4: Communication & the scripts to use to help your child return to calm
Topic #5: Rewards and Reinforcement: How to Keep the Better Behaviors
Other Helpful Links to Manage Problem Behaviors
Link #1: Calm Communication Scripts Ebook
Link #2: Problem Proof Behavior Parenting Program
Related Episodes:
EPISODE 2: How to Give Your Child Your Calm
iTunes: Episode 2 Apple How To Give Your Child Your Calm
Spotify: Episode 2 Spotify: How To Give Your Child Your Calm
Season 1 Episode 8: Positive Communication for Difficult Children
iTunes: Season 1 Episode 8 Apple Podcast
Spotify: Season 1 Episode 8 Spotify
Episode 3: How Your Communication Can Improve Your Child’s Behaviors
iTunes: Episode 3 Apple How Your Communication Can Improve Your Child's Behaviors
Spotify: Episode 3 Spotify: How Your Communication Can Improve Your Child's Behaviors
Want to know the systems I use to eliminate problem behaviors and maintain your calm
Find out more here: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/thesheatracey
Episode 13: 34 Lessons I've Learned About Shaping Behavior as a Parent, Educator & Parent Coach
11/29/2022
Shea Tracey Podcast
Episode 13: 34 Lessons I Have Learned on Managing A Child’s Behavior as a Parent, Educator, & Parent Coach
Brief summary of episode:
This special episode was made in honor of my 34th birthday. A bit on the long side for a usual Shea Tracey Podcast episode, I share the 34 lessons (maybe a bit more than 34) on the things I’ve learned about managing and eliminating problem behaviors while keeping my calm. This has come with my experience working as an educator for 8 years with students who have special needs and in my own personal experience as a parent of my two amazing boys, ages 9 and 6. This journey has not been without its triumphs as I have learned and have had enough ego deaths for 2 lifetimes.
Take a listen to some of the lessons I’ve learned to make your journey in parenting that much easier and blissful.
If you want a few words on managing problem behavior and maintaining your calm all the while then be sure you listen to today’s episode.
Access my free Masterclass all about how to eliminate problem behaviors and manage your calm: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Main Topics & Bullet Points:
Here is a quick view of some of the ideas and topics covered in my lessons learned.
“5 more minutes” - Timer - Countdowns - “Hand it To Me” - Let Them Tell You No - Make Room for Tears - Honor Their Likes - Branch Out
Their Interests - Sit for 10 more minutes - Pause Before Responding - Get Up & Get Them - Eye to Eye & Squat - Let Them Make Choices - “What Do You Need?” - “How Can I Help?” - Confer With Your Partner - Be Kind - No Threats or Promises - Don’t Reward Chores - Use their strengths to build their limits - Open conversations - Say when you’re uncomfortable - Let them see you rest - Get clear on the outcome you want - Balance clean and dirty - Pick habits and hobbies you can sustain - If you’re losing your stuff let it show - Dinner & Help - Clock out time is 8:00pm - Fear is not the goal - Full depth of emotions
Mentioned in this episode:
Link #1: Calm Communication Scripts Ebook
Link #2: Problem Proof Behavior Parenting Program
Related Episodes:
Season 1 Episode 5 How to Connect With Your Child in Today's Day & Age
iTunes: Season 1 Episode 5 Apple
Spotify: Season 1 Episode 5 Spotify
Season 1 Episode 8: Positive Communication for Difficult Children
iTunes: Season 1 Episode 8 Apple Podcast
Spotify: Season 1 Episode 8 Spotify
Episode 12: Parenting Scripts that Save You the Hassle & Stop the Tantrums
11/22/2022
Episode 12: Parenting Scripts that Save You the Hassle & Stop the Tantrums
Homework has been made into a difficult chore and our children feel that energy and they project it back to us. Rather than making homework something to get through we discuss ways to make homework a part of the afterschool routine that is homework love with mom or dad. We give them the space and the proximity to learn with appropriate struggle and help them along the way not by giving them the answer but by asking a different question. This episode shares ways to make homework more enjoyable as a process and not an end result.
Do you struggle with after school homework sessions because your child feels defeated before they have even started?
Do you feel like you are trying all the things to get your child to do their homework and it still ends up in tears?
In today's episode, I share the 3 easy ways to help your homework blues even if you aren’t sure how to help them do it!
If you're tired of homework ending in tears and frustration, make sure you listen to this episode!
Join my free upcoming Masterclass all about how to eliminate problem behaviors and manage your calm: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Key Topics
Topic #1 Strategies You Can Try
Topic #2 The mindset you can have
Topic #3 Make homework a ritual that's enjoyable
Mentioned in this episode:
Link #1: Calm Communication Scripts Ebook
Link #2: Problem Proof Behavior Parenting Program
Related Episodes:
EPISODE 2: How to Give Your Child Your Calm
iTunes: Episode 2 Apple How To Give Your Child Your Calm
Spotify: Episode 2 Spotify: How To Give Your Child Your Calm
Episode 3: How Your Communication Can Improve Your Child’s Behaviors
iTunes: Episode 3 Apple How Your Communication Can Improve Your Child's Behaviors
Spotify: Episode 3 Spotify: How Your Communication Can Improve Your Child's Behaviors
Want to know the systems I use to eliminate problem behaviors and maintain your calm
Find out more here: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/thesheatracey
Episode 11: How to stop Homework Meltdowns?
11/15/2022
Shea Tracey Podcast
Episode 11: How to stop Homework Meltdowns?
Homework has been made into a difficult chore and our children feel that energy and they project it back to us. Rather than making homework something to get through we discuss ways to make homework a part of the after school routine that is homework love with mom or dad. We give them the space and the proximity to learn with appropriate struggle and help them along the way not by giving them the answer but by asking a different question. This episode shares ways to make homework more enjoyable as a process and not an end result.
Do you struggle with after school homework sessions because your child feels defeated before they have even started?
Do you feel like you are trying all the things to get your child to do their homework and it still ends up in tears?
In today's episode, I share the 3 easy ways to help your homework blues even if you aren’t sure how to help them do it!
If you're tired of homework ending in tears and frustration, make sure you listen to this episode!
Join my free upcoming Masterclass all about how to eliminate problem behaviors and manage your calm: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Key Topics
Topic #1 Strategies You Can Try
Topic #2 The mindset you can have
Topic #3 Make homework a ritual that's enjoyable
Mentioned in this episode:
Link #1: Calm Communication Scripts Ebook
Link #2: Problem Proof Behavior Parenting Program
Related Episodes:
EPISODE 2: How to Give Your Child Your Calm
iTunes: Episode 2 Apple How To Give Your Child Your Calm
Spotify: Episode 2 Spotify: How To Give Your Child Your Calm
Episode 3: How Your Communication Can Improve Your Child’s Behaviors
iTunes: Episode 3 Apple How Your Communication Can Improve Your Child's Behaviors
Spotify: Episode 3 Spotify: How Your Communication Can Improve Your Child's Behaviors
Want to know the systems I use to eliminate problem behaviors and maintain your calm
Find out more here: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/thesheatracey
Episode 10: 3 Tips to Identify Your Child’s Triggers & Remain Calm In Crisis
11/08/22
Episode 10: 3 Tips to Identify Your Child's Triggers & Remain Calm in Crisis
Get clear on your child’s triggers to help curate a calm environment. Often times we see that our children come to us, already triggered by something and we end up in the midsts of their tantrum or their meltdown not fully understanding why. To get the best idea of what triggers your child may have will require that you get curious about the environment and get intuitive about what led up to your child’s problem behaviors.
These mentioned tips and tricks will help you and your child get to the root cause of their problem behaviors and help shift your mindset towards a paradigm that will help your family in times of crisis.
Do you struggle with identifying your child’s triggers because they seem to come out of nowhere?
Do you feel a little frustrated and blame yourself for your behaviors?
In today's episode, I share 5 tips to identify your child’s triggers, even if you're short on time and energy!
If you're tired of dealing with your child’s blowouts, make sure you listen to this episode!
Join my free upcoming Masterclass all about how to eliminate problem behaviors and manage your calm: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Key topics
Topic #1 Explain Triggers & Identifying Your Child’s Triggers
Topic #2 Prevention Instead of Reaction; Some Things To Consider
Topic #3 Stopping Your Triggers to Your Child’s Behavior
Mentioned in this episode:
Link #1: Calm Communication Scripts Ebook
Link #2: Problem Proof Behavior Parenting Program
Link #3: Triggered Activity
Related Episodes:
Season 1 Episode 8: Positive Communication for Difficult Children
iTunes: Season 1 Episode 8 Apple Podcast
Spotify: Season 1 Episode 8 Spotify
Season 1 Episode 2: How To Give Your Children Your Calm
iTunes: Season 1 Episode 2 Apple Podcast
Spotify: https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/1PllU8oAwub
Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/thesheatracey
Episode 9: How to STOP Bribing Your Kids and What To Do Instead
11/1/2022
Shea Tracey Podcast
Episode 9 How to STOP Bribing Your Kids and What To Do Instead
This week's episode is on the key differences between Bribing and Rewarding your children and how you can use this information to get long term behavior change in your child instead of quick, only for the day fixes. Get long term behavior change by getting clear on what your child really wants and be able to deliver it at a rate that you can sustain. Working through behavior difficulties is more than just stopping behavior; it requires a lot of underbelly work. The steps and pieces needed in order for your child to sustain require more than just committing the action but really depends on their ability to persevere, maintain, and deliver the desired outcome. Making the connections between your child’s interest and desires also helps to provide rewards that they will actually work for and move them towards committing the preferred behaviors all on their own without any input from us.
Do you struggle with “bribing your kids” because they don’t want to do something for “nothing”?
Do you feel like the little rewards you give are not having as much impact as before, as if they’re beginning to wear off?
In today's episode, I share the 3 tips to reinforcing your kids without bribing, even if your kids are used to constant rewards!
If you're tired of constantly rewarding your child to get them to do things, make sure you listen to this episode!
Join my free upcoming Masterclass all about How to Eliminate Problem Behaviors & Manage Your Calm: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Key Topics & Chapter Markers
Topic #1: How to tell Bribe and Reward Apart
Topic #2: How to Stop Bribing and Reinforce Instead
Topic #3: How to give them things they REALLY want
Mentioned in this episode:
Link #1: Reinforcement and Rewards to Consider Checklist
Link #2: Problem Proof Behavior Parenting Program
Related Episodes:
Season 1 Episode 5 How to Connect With Your Child in Today's Day & Age
iTunes: Season 1 Episode 5 Apple
Spotify: Season 1 Episode 5 Spotify
Season 1 Episode 4: How To Change Your Child's Problem Behavior With These Strategies
iTunes:
Spotify: Season 1 Episode 4 Spotify
Want to know the systems I use to eliminate problem behaviors and maintain your calm http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Episode 8: Positive Communication for Difficult Children
Shea Tracey Podcast
Episode 8: Positive Communication for Difficult Children
10/25/22
Brief Summary:
Create affective (not effective) communication with your child to eliminate misunderstandings and stop arguing over small and insignificant things. Create some ease and connection with scripts for understanding and stand on your authority by helping your child with the boundaries you have set through your communication.
Do you struggle with getting your child to communicate their wants and needs because it starts arguments?
Do you feel like the little bit they do communicate isn’t helpful?
In today's episode, I share the calm communication method for parents , even if your child has a disability ! If you're tired of yelling and arguing with your child, make sure you listen to this episode!
Join my free upcoming Masterclass all about how to eliminate problem behaviors and manage your calm: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Bullet points of key topics + chapter markers
Topic #1 Affective communication without judgment
Topic #2 Use your words is one part, give them the words to best communicate yourself
Topic #3 Strategies to avoid arguments include talking less not more to clarify
Mentioned in this episode:
Link #1: Calm Communication Scripts Ebook
Link #2: Problem Proof Behavior Parenting Program
Want to know the systems I use to eliminate problem behaviors and maintain your calm
Find out more here: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/thesheatracey/
Episode 7: Staying Calm When Your Child is “Out of Control”
10/18/2022
Shea Tracey Podcast
Episode 7: Staying Calm When Your Child is “Out of Control”
Brief summary of episode: Maintaining your calm may be hard when you have a child that feels out of control. The best way to get a handle on the situation is to get a handle over you. Your child will follow your lead and stay within the boundaries you set when you are willing to follow through with them. We get them to do this by setting boundaries that we can follow through on and by those we are willing to enforce. Self -regulation requires that you stay present and in doing so you gain control over yourself so that you can best meet the needs of your children.
Do you struggle with staying calm when your child is “out of control” because you feel embarrassed or annoyed?
Do you feel like the smallest things can set your child off making it difficult to predict their behavior?
In today's episode, I share the ways to manage your calm, even when your child is “out of control”!
If you're tired of losing your cool when your child is losing their stuff, make sure you listen to this episode!
Join my free upcoming Masterclass all about how to eliminate problem behaviors and manage your calm: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Topic #1 In order to regain your calm you need to ground yourself using mindfulness.
Topic #2 Don’t lose your power by giving it away . Someone who has the power to anger you, has the power to control you
Topic #3 Stay cool by following through with the boundaries you established and the consequences you stated by reminding yourself and your child what the goal is
Mentioned in this episode:
Link #1: Mindfulness in Hectic Moments Ebook
Link #2: Setting boundaries with your children (Audio Course)
Link #3: Coaching Application for the Problem Behavior Proof Parenting Program
Want to know the systems I use to eliminate problem behaviors and maintain your calm
Find out more here: http://sheatracey.com/masterclass
Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/thesheatracey/
Episode 6 Get To the Why Of Your Child’s Behavior
10/11/2022
Shea Tracey
Episode 6 Get To the Why Of Your Child’s Behavior
Brief summary of episode:
This is the sixth episode for the Shea Tracey Podcast set to highlight the principles of www.sheatracey.com. In this episode we talk about shaping behavior that is a problem for today but they will need in the future.
Do you struggle with identifying which behaviors to stop and which behaviors you should help change in your child?
Do you feel like your child is doing things out of spite?
Do you have trouble understanding why your child is engaging in certain behaviors?
In today's episode, I share some insight on behavior changing and shaping for a positive relationship with your children in this episode.
If you're tired of the frustration that comes with your child’s problem behaviors then you have to listen to this episode!
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Main Topics
Topic #1 Shape behaviors that are a problem now but your child will need in the future.
Topic #2 Get clear on what need the behavior serves: is it to Escape or Avoid; Or is it for Attention or something Tangible.
Topic #3 Give them the grace they need by first giving it to yourself
Topic #4 Show them love in the way that they can feel it
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Episode 5 How to Connect With Your Child in Today's Day & Age
10/4/2022
Shea Tracey Podcast
Episode 5: How to Connect with Your Child In Today's Day & Age
Brief summary of episode:
This is the fifth episode for the Shea Tracey Podcast set to highlight the principles of www.sheatracey.com. In this episode we talk about family and connection over struggles and difficulty with your children
Do you struggle with how to prepare your child in this world we’re coming up in?
Do you feel like the energy in your home is up and down making it hard to relax?
Is sharing your past experiences with your children difficult for you or do you think it's even necessary?
In today's episode, I share some insight on bold conversations, triggers, energy, and connecting in today’s episode.
If you're tired of the ups and downs of calm in your home make sure you listen to this episode!
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Main Topics
Topic #1 Teach them the things you wish you would have learned sooner.
Topic #2 How to change the energy you bring into your home
Topic #3 Share what you have overcome with your children when the time is right.
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Episode 4: How To Change Your Child's Problem Behavior With These Strategies
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Episode 4: How to Change Your Child's Behavior (Use These Strategies)
Brief summary of episode:
This is the fourth episode for the Shea Tracey Podcast set to highlight the principles of www.sheatracey.com in the areas of self regulation and behavior management in parenting. In this episode I talk about reinforcement and rewards that work during trying times for you and your children.
Do you struggle with positive communication because sometimes you focus on the negative when it comes to your child’s behavior?
Do you feel like are just handling behaviors for the day but you know you don’t have a long term solution?
Do you feel like your children continue to engage in bad behavior even after telling them time and time again not to?
In today's episode, I share some insights and practices on changing and shaping your child’s behavior, even if you are escalated! If you're tired of having to constantly battle your children’s difficult behavior make sure you listen to this episode!
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Main Topics
Topic #1 Change Behavior with the 6 to 1 trick
Topic #2 Correct and Connect with the end in mind for challenging behaviors
Topic #3 How to starve out negative behaviors to create positive ones
Topic #4 Eliminate your child’s problem behavior with this strategy
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Episode 3: How Your Communication Can Improve Your Child's Behaviors
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Episode 3: How Your Communication Can Improve Your Child's Behavior
Brief summary of episode:
This is the third episode for the Shea Tracey Podcast set to highlight the principles of www.sheatracey.com. In this episode we talk about communication and working through that in trying times for you and your children.
Do you struggle with communicating because during those moments you are too upset?
Do you feel like you don’t have capacity to play into your child’s tantrum?
In today's episode, I share the principles of communicating during difficult moments, even if you are escalated! If you're tired of you and your child shutting down during difficult parenting moments make sure you listen to this episode!
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Main Topics
Topic #1 In incensed moments do not talk more talk less.
Topic #2 Behavior is Communication. You have to watch in order to listen
Topic #3 Give them the script in order for them to advocate for themselves
Topic #4 Get curious about their behaviors in order for them to change.
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Episode 2: How You Can Give Your Children Your Calm
Brief summary of episode:
This is the second episode for the Shea Tracey Podcast set to highlight the principles of www.sheatracey.com. In this episode we talk about coping, self regulation, and consistency in order to supply our children with the structure, skills, and values that help with their behavior, self-esteem, and their future. Introducing the podcast to the world, this episode will introduce listeners to Shea Tracey and provide an overview of her mainstay principle in managing problem behavior and getting children on the path you would like for them to go all the while honoring the person that they are.
Main Topics
Topic #1 Self-Regulation: Ground yourself so that you are able to deal with the big emotions that our children have the grounding skills to process our feelings.
Topic #2 Keep Your Power: We do not join their chaos, instead we give them our calm because we have skills that our children don’t. We give them the space, the skills, the support, to deal with their difficult moments.
Topic #3 The Power of Tongue: Our voice becomes their voice. So we have to be able to see that our words are not left void. We want our children to hear us and use our words to support them.
Topic #4 Seeing Our Children as People: We acknowledge that we are both growing up at this time, me as your mother and you as a child. We can learn from them in the same way that they learn from us. Our children are having an experience completely different than ours even though we remember being that age.
Topic #5 Having a Full Parent ToolBox: Expand the list of skills that we use when dealing with our children and their problem behaviors. Some go tos, scripts, strategies in order to deal with their behaviors.
Topic #6
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Episode 1: Beginning With The End in Mind (Parent Edition)
Date: September 06 2022
Name of podcast: The Shea Tracey Podcast
Episode title and number: Season 1 Episode 1: Beginning With the End in Mind (Parent Edition)
Brief summary of episode:
This is the first episode for the Shea Tracey Podcast set to highlight the principles of www.sheatracey.com. Introducing the podcast to the world, this episode will introduce listeners to Shea Tracey and provide an overview of her mainstay principle in managing problem behavior and getting children on the path you would like for them to go all the while honoring the person that they are.
Bullet points of key topics + chapter markers
Topic #1 Managing and raising your children is not meant for getting from day to day but having the foresight to think about 10 years from now even in the moment
Topic #2 Don’t have your child have to return to who they are, this thing you have, let me show you when and how to use it. We have to be discerning in what we are trying to get our children to do.
Topic #3 The things we value, become the box we use to shape our children. In order for our children to fully lean into the beliefs of the first teacher (i.e. the mom) you have to be all in what we believe to be important. What you value shows up in how you do everything. We are showing our children what is valuable and what is important.
Topic #4 Our roles of teaching and learning, and parent and child is a spectrum that is constantly changing. We aren't raising adults, we are cultivating spirits that are having a human experience. I am giving you space to grow in whatever space that is right for you.
Topic #5 We don’t have to sculpt and mold, together we are here to be. This doesn’t have to be all work, we have the space to just be.
Topic #6 Our children are and will be what we direct and decide. As a mother we have to take the time to build the connection and release the pressure of the idea that we have to be in control. Our children can control themselves in the conditions that we provide.
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