The Talk
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Neuroplasticity and new love: how the brain literally rewires itself during the honeymoon phase
There is a reason the early stages of a relationship feel less like a lifestyle change and more like a total cognitive takeover. We call it the honeymoon phase, but...
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The body’s "no": the psychology of the ick
The ick is a singular, modern phenomenon that sits somewhere between a preference and a physical reflex. It’s that sudden, inexplicable shift where a person you were previously attracted to...
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The pelvic floor as a mirror: how we hold our stress, our secrets and our power in our core
We often speak about the heart or the gut as the emotional centres of the body, but there is an equally reactive, though far more private, anchor point: the pelvic...
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The biology of cringe
It starts as a sudden, visceral heat in the cheeks, an involuntary curling of the toes and a fleeting, desperate wish that the floor would simply open up. We’ve all...
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The 2am Ghost: why we text the people we don’t want back
There is a specific, low-frequency hum that happens around the third glass of wine. It’s the moment where the logic of the day begins to dissolve and the phone in...
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The radical act of wanting: a note on erotic activism
In a world that constantly asks us to be productive, optimised and "on," there is a quiet, powerful rebellion in simply wanting something for yourself. We often think of activism...
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Learning your body in a long-term relationship
In the quiet landscape of a long-term relationship, it’s easy to assume the map of our partner’s body - and our own - is fully charted. We fall into a...
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The second adolescence: reclaiming the sexual self
In the traditional arc of life, adolescence is usually framed as a messy, hormone-fueled rite of passage - a blur of first crushes and the frantic construction of an identity....
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Is wanting to be desired the same as wanting sex?
They often get bundled together, but they are not the same thing. Wanting to be desired and wanting sex can overlap, sometimes neatly, sometimes messily. But they come from different...
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Valentine’s day, for yourself
Valentine’s Day has a reputation for being about couples, gestures and visible romance. The kind that’s easy to spot from the outside. Flowers on tables, reservations booked weeks ahead, carefully...
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The history of valentine’s day and how it became what it is now
Valentine’s Day didn’t start with roses, restaurant bookings, or heart-shaped anything. In fact, its origins are far messier, darker and far less romantic than the version we know today. What...
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What is an air-pulse clitoral stimulator — and what does it actually feel like?
If you’ve been curious about air-pulse clitoral stimulators — sometimes referred to as suction vibrators — but aren’t quite sure what they actually feel like, you’re not alone. The technology...
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Expanding the toolkit: Why we created Rush
Rush is an air-pulse clitoral stimulator designed to sit alongside the Essensual Vibe, not replace it. It offers a different tactile language - one centered on rhythm, localized pressure, and...
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The design ethos of Rush: Why pleasure belongs in the open
For too long, the objects we use for our most intimate moments have been designed for the shadows. They were items to be tucked away in drawers, shrouded in a...
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The slow sex movement: Why the best connection happens at a lower speed
We live in a culture of the "quick fix." From high speed internet to fast fashion and three minute meditation apps, our brains have been conditioned to prioritise the destination...
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The vulnerability hangover: When deep intimacy leaves you feeling "raw"
We are often told that the goal of intimacy is total connection - the kind of soul-baring closeness that makes the world disappear. We pursue it, we celebrate it and...
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How to stay curious about someone you already know
The longer you love someone, the more you think you know them. Their rhythms, their habits, the way they reach for you in the dark. You can predict the small...
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6 intimacy-building exercises to keep the spark alive
Every long-term relationship eventually moves past the rush of the beginning. The early spark… that thrilling mix of novelty and anticipation gives way to something quieter, more stable and often,...
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What we talk about when we talk about “chemistry”
We’ve all said it…there was chemistry. Or maybe, there just wasn’t. It’s the phrase we reach for when logic fails, when attraction feels too complex to name. But what do...
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The rise of the female gaze
For decades, cinema taught us what desire should look like and it almost always looked the same. A woman’s body framed in fragments, observed rather than felt. The camera lingered,...
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Why we romanticise emotional unavailability
We all know the story. The one who keeps you guessing. The late replies. The almosts. The people who say I’m not good at relationships and somehow become the very...
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The seduction of red lipstick
There are few objects in history as small yet as powerful as a tube of red lipstick. It’s one of the simplest beauty products - just pigment, wax and oil...
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9 songs that taught us about sex
Before we learned about sex through experience, we learned it through sound.Through lyrics we didn’t fully understand, videos that blurred the line between fantasy and reality, and melodies that made...
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Pillow Talk with Persia Notarberardino
We are delighted to introduce you to Persia Notarberardino (she/her) – a Sydney-based model and creative whose presence is as intentional as it is magnetic. A Scorpio at heart, Persia...
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Talking to your partner about trying a vibrating ring
Bringing something new into your sex life can feel exciting and a little intimidating. Even if you’re curious about vibrating rings, the thought of suggesting it to a partner might...
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What a vibrating ring actually does: a beginner’s guide
Vibrating rings are one of those toys you often hear about but might not fully understand until you’ve tried one. Simple in design yet surprisingly versatile, they’re created to enhance...
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Reclaiming intimacy after sexual assault
The numbers don’t lie: 1 in 5 women and 1 in 16 men in Australia have experienced a form of sexual violence. For queer people, the prevalence is even higher. ...
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Intimacy you might miss if you’re not looking
Following on from our previous blog on unexpected things that are actually intimate, this piece goes a step further. It’s about the kinds of closeness that rarely get acknowledged -...
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Unexpected things that are actually intimate
Intimacy isn’t always obvious. It doesn’t only happen in physical closeness or deep conversation. Often, it shows up in quiet gestures that don’t ask for attention. You notice them after...
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Finding purpose in pain: turning endometriosis into advocacy
Introducing In Touch - real stories, honest conversations and shared experiences from our community. Pleasure, connection, and sexuality are deeply personal. No two experiences are the same and there are endless stories...
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Fantasy and feminism
“Just because I fantasise / Doesn’t mean it’s wrong” - FKA twigs, Two Weeks Fantasies can feel like confessions. We tend to treat them as indulgent, embarrassing or somehow other...
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The psychology of eye contact during sex
Eye contact is often treated as a sign of closeness. We hold it when we want someone to feel seen. We look away when we feel shy or unsure. But...
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The role of scent in sexual memory
Some smells stay with us. A particular cologne. The scent of skin. Sweat on sheets. You might catch it again months or years later, and without meaning to, you’re right...
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A guide to pleasuring yourself, together
For many people, the idea of mutual masturbation might feel unfamiliar or even a little awkward. It’s not often talked about openly, yet it can be one of the most...
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A beginner’s guide to roleplay
Have you ever wondered what it would feel like to step into a different version of yourself - or see your partner in a whole new light? That’s the heart...
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Why aftercare should be part of all good sex
You’ve just had sex, but instead of feeling close, you feel a little distant. Emotional. Maybe even a little alone - even though your partner is lying right beside you....